How to Make
Moments Count in
As we all know, visiting a loved one in a nursing home can be difficult, disheartening and frustrating, but it can also be an opportunity to learn more about each other. Talking isn’t always necessary in order to have quality moments. But if we do decide to talk and the person we’re visiting is able to, it’s crucial that we do it the right way. Here are a few tips to adapt our communication.
The first thing you need to do is identify the reason behind your question. What is your motive? Do you want to know the answer or is it a way to make conversation about a subject important to the other person? Take this example: you ask them what their favourite ice cream flavour is. There are so many choices. Too many. The person might not have the answer you’re looking for at their fingertips and their inability to answer the simplest question may cause a great sense of personal failure. If, on the other hand, you ask them whether they prefer vanilla or chocolate-flavoured ice cream, the choice is much simpler. By asking the question this way, you’ve considerably reduced the risk that the other person wouldn’t be able to answer. That is why it is crucial to ask questions that don’t require precise answers in order to let the conversation flow naturally.
We must ALWAYS
find failure-free activities!
One thing is for sure, some conversation topics, such as feelings, babies, love and tender moments never fail to get people with dementia to open up.
No matter what we choose, we must ALWAYS find failure-free activities. In other words, an activity where there are no winners or losers. The fun lies in the activity rather than the result. But concretely, what does that mean? It means that when we pick a puzzle, for example, we choose a simple one with mature illustrations and most importantly, we place the pieces close to the other person so that they’re easy to reach. We can take the piece and ask: do you think this one goes here? The answer is simple. Yes or no. Can you imagine being in the advanced stages of the illness and having to find where the piece goes? Why would we place the other in a situation where they might have no clue what to answer? It is crucial to reevaluate our objectives.
3 Activities That Work
The following activities are for caregivers of seniors living at home or in long-term care facilities. They are as easy to do as they are accessible and fun. Both the caregivers and their loved ones enthusiastically appreciate them. We encourage you to frequently visit this page as we will update it regularly with new activities.
Creating Strong Bonds
Some call them intergenerational activities, but to simplify, they are interactions between seniors in loss of autonomy and their grandchildren.
Reading With Seniors
There eventually comes a moment when we feel like a person with a loss of autonomy doesn’t feel like doing anything anymore.
Relaxation Body Care
Certain people just can’t participate in discussions, whether it be because they are not capable of it anymore…
It is difficult to understand why suddenly, today, our loved one seems unable to do an activity they could do yesterday. Dementia is complex and doesn’t develop in a straight line. Each stage may overlap and vary from one person to another. It’s important to keep in mind that a person might not be able to do an activity one day, and the following day recover their capacities. We need to slowly reintegrate the activity to allow the person to keep their autonomy as much as possible.
Tools that really work
The Tender, Loving, Care Doll#C0060$98.95
The Tender, Loving, Care Doll
Companion Pet – Silver Cat#17300$199.95
Companion Pet – Silver Cat
Simple Music Player – Red#25201$234.95
Simple Music Player – Red
Aquapaint – Natural World#28100$29.95
Aquapaint – Natural World
MEMO Digital Clock-Calendar#C0063$119.95
MEMO Digital Clock-Calendar
Talking Photo Album#28017$129.95
Talking Photo Album
2-Way – Shut the Box#27042$56.95
2-Way – Shut the Box
Giant Adapted Jigsaw Puzzle – Cat#28104$24.95
Giant Adapted Jigsaw Puzzle – Cat
Set “B” 35 Pcs – Tray Puzzle (4)#27255$29.95
Set “B” 35 Pcs – Tray Puzzle (4)
Double Row Wooden Card Holder#C27426$15.95
Double Row Wooden Card Holder
I offered The Tender Loving Care Doll to my 84 year-old mother who has dementia. She has been living in a long-term care facility for years and is non-verbal. But when I gave her the doll, her eyes immediately lit up and she whispered, “she’s so pretty.” Every night, she sleeps with her baby, cuddles and talks to her. Thank you so much, this doll gave us so much joy and love.
These past few years, I have seen my 92 year-old mother slowly lose her autonomy. Someone recommended the Simple Music Player, and I was able to put all the songs from my mother’s youth on it. As soon as she heard the first notes, she smiled in a way that I hadn’t seen for years! It is so easy to use for my mother and it truly empowers her while making her happy. It is a perfect tool for reminiscence.
I am a recreational therapist in a residence. I know first-hand how important it is to find the right tools to support seniors with dementia. Every week, at least one person asks me what they can do to help their loved one get their smile back. It is always a relief for them when they go on your website and see the broad variety of tools, tips and ideas that exist and truly work. Thank you.
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